The Unknown Unknowns

I was reading an article today that basically discussed proposed and discussed the idea that if you're stupid, do you know you're stupid? This logic extends to if you're a bad parent, would you know you're a bad parent? If you're the kind of person who uses "to" when it should be "too"...do you know how insane that makes me? Oh wait, didn't mean to get personal. Okay but this got me thinking, truly contemplating this whole woman/man relationship thing. Obviously my relationship is drama filled, enough to be fodder for many therapy sessions. I have enough material that I could have been Oprah's only guest her entire TV career; I digress. Anyway the Other has been upset for 3 years over pictures. Not just any pictures, but specifically pictures of ex boyfriends that I have in various photo albums. I chalked up his behavior as pure madness and have stood my ground and not removed the pictures, boxed them up, or burned them in a ceremony as he wished. I basically looked at it from my point of view which is, I could care less if he still has photos of ex girlfriends because (this is my head talking) I know who I am! I am the greatest girlfriend he's ever had or gonna have so who cares about his past nothings. I then used my thoughts and opinions and pressed them onto him. A sort of, if I feel this way, so should you, actually so WILL you. If not, a shrug of shoulders and let you suffer.

And the pictures remained. In drawers, in photo albums, on shelves. Under his eyelids.

He told me last night "you haven't heard me for 3 years". First reaction was this guy is nuts! I'm THE best listener ever. Then a little something crept in and all of a sudden I thought, maybe I haven't listened. (this is where the stage goes black and the spotlight shines on me)...I, for once, feel I might have been wrong. (collective gasp of shock from audience). I, the staunch Libra, was wrong. I have asked him probably four thousand times to look at it from my point of view, walk in my shoes, see through my eyes....and if he can't do that then just do whatever I'm asking him to do because I asked. Really. I have expected this from him the entire time and seen no problem with it. It's almost a trumped up version of my 3yr olds demanding "because I want it" but in my mind its been justified because I work my a** off and I do this and I do that so just do for me!

I don't want anogsonosia people! I am revolting against the unknown unkowns! My mind feels open and breezy and just ready for more growth.

A man at a restaurant in Hayward, Wisconsin (Norske Nook...mmmm is hollandaise on the food pyramid?)...was on the receiving end of my baby girl's smiles and cooing. She just couldn't stop turning around in her high chair to stare at this man and his wife/girlfriend/friend. They smiled and played along as patrons at public places sometimes do (vs. hissing and making cat pawing motions like some non kid friendly folks) ...after a while he says to me out of the blue. I don't have this exact but something like "I've been working on brain scans of men and women who are right or left handed and comparing their brain functions". Both left handed men and women use both sides of the brain; he continues (I swear he paused for effect as he watched me shovel hollandaise covered lefse into my mouth with my left hand) "left handed men use mostly the right side of the brain and will switch and use their left side when needed, we found that women who are left handed utilize both sides of their brain almost simultaneously basically using the most of the brain of anyone either right or left handed". I responded with something like "thank you for validating my entire life". I do know when I'm stupid!